so here's the thing: i think a big part of why i've kept so much distance between myself and others isn't even my fear that they'll disappoint me, but my fear that i'll disappoint them. when the events outlined in
this post occurred, many of my friends were severely depressed or otherwise just really messed up. at least some of them didn't have it in them to be there for me when i needed them, through no fault of their own.
i'm very aware of my own limitations. and when i start to feel like people are expecting things of me -- time, attention, emotional investment -- that's when i start backing away. because i don't want to let them depend on me. i don't want to fail them the way i've been failed. and i probably will. i'm sure i have in the past.